Betrayal And Its Toll On The Sexual Health Within A Couple

If in the collective imagination betrayal is synonymous with breaking the relationship, one rarely sees relationships consolidated in a stable way after the discovery of infidelity. The partners are urgently activated to understand what is happening, but it is not always easy: the betrayal is that it is painful and provocative, but it says things that sometimes you can’t tell in another way.

The partners immediately want to know if the betrayal is a problem of the couple or a problem of the traitor: what to answer? What we do know is that betrayal is the effect and not the cause of an ongoing personal or couple crisis.

There are betrayals that, if understood, serve the couple, others that reveal where we are and there are betrayals that are useless and bring only fear and suffering. Betrayal is too strong and violent to be dismissed, as many do, as a simple sexual appetite.

Not infrequently, for example, betrayal becomes an attempt at independence or control over the other, an unconscious move to bring the partner’s attention back or to remove them permanently. The betrayal always says something of the moment that the couple is living, it is the proof that in order to recover the bond they go then to discuss other issues that have remained hidden and underground for months. Not for nothing, many infidelities take place in moments of change in the life of the couple where balance is adjusted: the search for a pregnancy, children who are born or leave home, bereavement, changes in the economic state or in work.

It is as if the betrayal discloses the maneuvers with which the partner tries to manage this new order: taking a distance from the partner, punishing them for the attention one does not feel they are receiving, trying clumsily to protect oneself from a bond that is becoming central. It is therefore not surprising that many partners, instead of breaking the relationship, try to understand why they have been thrown into this situation.

People already know that they shouldn’t betray, so why do some look for couples therapy? Being betrayed is one of the most explosive and painful experiences that can be lived, but it is also a widespread experience towards which couple therapies reach out to be able to “use” suffering, close wounds and regenerate a story.

At some point, if there is a crisis in a relationship but a mutual desire to rebuild it, a couple might experience difficulties in their sexual life. The feelings of jealousy or guilt will take their toll on the sexual functioning on both partners.

And although these reasons are purely psychological in nature, an appointment with an andrologist can help a man establish if he can benefit from the use of sexual drugs like Viagra, Cialis, Levitra and their numerous generics and analogs.

Restoring the sexual harmony within the couple if one of the most important steps on the way towards rebuilding the emotional connection, therefore do not postpone talking to a sexual therapist or urologist in order to help you overcome the physiological component of this psychological problem.